So as far as I can discern from my limited use of the TV and newspapers in general, a footballer named John Terry had an affair with some not-too-bad looking girl a while ago, then the news-rags were embellishing facts as they usually do so all would read it, and printing all kinds of revelations about his affair to any gobshite who would read it. Big fucking whoop. We read the same shite every day. Always a death. Always an affair. Always a war. Why do we act so surprised that it happens? It'll never happen to us!A few months ago it was Tiger Woods, now this. Actually I'd say my info is a little out of date at the moment... but fuck it, my points are the same so I will continue.
I recently discovered or rather, noticed, that all of us guys work on the same level. We get girls. It's what we want. Some of us don't want to be with them, some do and inevitably some guys cheat. Some guys are comfortable. Some guys want love. This is nothing new. Cheryl Cole is now single because her footballer husband cheated. Women cannot believe she is single because she's "successful and good looking". Perhaps she is just a bitch? John Terry and his missus were up in arms because he cheated. Maybe he just realised he didn't like her? David Beckham and his wife...
Ah fuck it, you get my point. Problem is, the high profile celebrities are taking the flak for what is generally a relatively normal thing going on between human beings. We chop and change because we want certain things from certain people. Some people just go the wrong way about doing it. Some people lose sight and they just want the basics: Sex. Money. Attention. Recognition.
Men want sex and an easy life. It's so simple. Women want security and Love. Men want to find a partner they are compatible with so the moaning and groaning will be at minimum level (certain moaning and groaning) So they shop around. Women want security and love so they shack up with the guy. But they want a particular package with all the trimmings. Some women just want the security so they spill their stories of how guys shop around spinelessly and sell it to the papers for money. There are two sides to every story. Problem is, the guys they can't man up and just leave their previous relationship first, so they use excuses for wanting attention elsewhere and to a lesser extent, sex. They make the flaw in a normal process by not fixing their other situation first. No one can blame a girl for wanting security and love, so it's not a surprise that they inevitably forgive the guy's infidelity. The guy pays big for sleeping around and we pay big to read about it too. We sacrifice our perspective to buy a cheaper alternative that is ideal relationships. Why would that work? Ideal relationships sell papers. they sell movies and TV shows too. Thing is, we can accept that it's normal for a girl to want things from a relationship, so why is it not normal for a guy to want certain things? Have we not learned that this is an on-going trend? Hands up who believes.. who really really believes guys are changing? I will say one thing though, when a man finds his true love (or whatever you call it) he won't cheat. Up until that moment he most likely will. You can trust that guy that always calls, always is on time, never has excuses and really actually genuinely misses you and wants to be around you.
Are you maybe hiding your real intentions? You want to control his money? You want to control his life? You want to control his time? Do you smother him? You are not the one he wants. Deal with it. Move on. You cannot change a man from being a man. But if you are really honest from day 1, you will find a man that will treat you with the dignity and respect that at least deserves a clean break if it's just not working out. John Terry and Tiger Woods are not bad men, they just did things the wrong way. Fear of loneliness is the same for guys as it is for girls, we just have different ways of dealing with it depending on the level of respect we have for you.
It's likely I might be ostracised by guys who don't want to agree with this for fear of their women. It's likely that women will have a problem with this because of their Walt Disney view on relationships. But it's the truth. The real problem it seems, is the potential loneliness each has to face up to, knowing it's just not working.
And it's my rant, so just click away if you don't like it.
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